I posted this on my Facebook page and wanted to share it here for anyone who may need it. I get told all the time that “I wish I had your stomach” or “you look so perfect.” Yeah, I’m small, I’m thin, I work for it, too, but I’m not perfect. My stomach isn’t always flat and even I have stomach rolls when I sit! What matters more than all of that, is that you’re coming at this from a place of self love.
y’all can we get real for a minute? The #1 thing I hear from friends when I post my workout videos is “I wish I had your stomach.” Well, I wish I had the stomach at all times in the first picture, too! These photos were taken 60 seconds apart today after my workout.
I sat down to drink my shake, and looked down and thought, “It wasn’t that long ago that this would have really bothered me.” But here are some truths: I have children! I have stretch marks. My stomach rolls when I sit down. Way way long ago some jerk I was dating made fun of my stomach and my rolls back when I was pre-babies and super fit (thanks to the military) and looked freaking amazing. Ever since, I’ve always thought my stomach was ugly and I was super self conscious to have ppl see my tummy when I sit down.
I laugh about that now because to be where I am in picture #2 is AMAZING! I am so happy to be in shape! I am so happy that I have my children who gave me those stretch marks. I am so happy to be the place I’m in. Yeah, picture #1 is awesome. I’m turned in my pageant swimsuit pose, I’m contracting my abs like I do when I workout. But picture #2 is me one minute later. And there’s nothing wrong with picture #2.
I’m doing this for me. I’m doing this to be healthy. I’m doing this for more energy, better sleep and because there are parts of my body I want to tone up. So for everyone who thinks I always look perfect, here’s a little reality. You may see my workout videos and think I always look like picture #1, but I don’t. And you may see picture #2 and say, “I want that stomach, too.” But stop focusing on everyone else and focus on YOU and YOUR health and YOUR body and that starts with loving the body you have, and then working on ways to improve your health.
If you don’t love your body, you’ll get to the point where you look like picture #1, and that won’t be good enough. Trust me, from someone who went through this at my absolute best body weight and super in shape moments, health comes from loving yourself first.